A submissive asked me a simple but profound question:
"What feeling is it within you when you dominate? Is it arousal or power, or?"
He said that if a submissive understands what is happening within the Dominant, they can adapt and become an even better submissive.
It made me stop and reflect.
When I first began exploring Dominance, I felt incredibly nervous, emotional, and out of place. I had placed toxic masculinity so high upon a pedestal that the first time I gently dominated someone, I cried.
All I had done was place my foot lightly upon his head as he knelt before me and awkwardly figured out how to attach a humbler. Yet something far greater had happened inside me.
My entire paradigm shifted.
I was uncomfortable in this becoming, and yet, at the same time, it felt strangely like coming home.
As I have continued to grow into my Dominance, I have become more confident.
Every time I step into this role, it feels as though the cracks within my energy field are being repaired with golden light—a kind of ethereal kintsugi. Parts of myself that once felt fractured begin to reconnect.
In the beginning, I thought that Dominance had to appear harsh, performative, almost theatrical.
Now I understand that Dominance begins with presence.
Presence with myself first.
Dominance can be soft.
It can be quiet.
It can be sensual, playful, loving and deeply attentive.
For me, Dominance simply means that I have been entrusted to lead the experience.
And while I lead, I also feel humbled.
I am humbled by a submissive's willingness to lay himself down before me. Humbled by the trust it takes to offer himself so completely. Humbled by his willingness to support and execute the creative visions that arise within me.
When a submissive becomes the ground beneath my feet, I experience a sense of stability.
When my feet feel supported, I feel safe.
When I feel safe, my body opens.
My sacral energy comes alive.
I become sensual.
Arousal naturally follows, but it is not merely sexual. It is creative.
My chest seems to shine. My voice vibrates through the ether. Visions begin arriving in my mind's eye, asking to be born into the world through my heART and hands.
I feel as though I am blossoming, majestically opening. Like an Indigo Lotus opening Her petals.
Through this blossoming, I bring beauty, creativity, connection and joy into the Yoniverse.
So dear submissive, as you can see, I cannot just give you one word to answer your question.
In my dominance I feel whole, complete. I feel divinely sensual, creative, aroused. I feel fierce and I feel gentle. I feel severe and I feel graceful. I feel authentic and fabulous. I feel domme high and domme drop. I feel exhilarated and exhausted. I feel overstimulated and sensitive. I feel curious and quirky. I feel mischievous and lustful. I feel serious and silly. I feel thoughtful and thoughtless. I feel hidden and seen. Sometimes disciplined and sometimes out of hand - I feel chaotic and calm. And at long last I feel at home, content, at peace.
Thank you for your question. Now worship my feet.